I was wrong about influence. I've learned an important lesson. I thought influence was all about convincing people. Winning them over. I've since learned it's more about connecting. Listening, asking and understanding. The books that helped most: 📚 The Classics Never Split the Difference by Christopher Voss Influence by Robert Cialdini How To Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie Training 🛠 The Skills A More Beautiful Question by Warren Berger Connect by Carole Robin, David Bradford Rapport by Emily Alison, Laurence Alison The Discplined Listening Method by Michael Reddington 😎 The Latest Thinking You Have More Influence Than You Think by Vanessa Bohns Influence is your Superpower by Zoe Chance Presence by Amy Cuddy 👉 What helps you influence? #influence #reading #books #learning #leadership #coaching
What helps me with influence is thinking about #impact. I asked my dad once about the people in his life who had a positive impact on him and I'll never forget the look on his face, his tone of voice, the energy that he had when he spoke of those individuals. Some were in his life for years, others for less time. That's what influence is to me- I want to be one of the people who others name when asked the same question I asked my dad.
What an interesting question. The short answer is: I have no idea. I'm getting stuck on the word 'influence'. What I see in the world around me is that influence is something wielded by people who either have the resources (money) to buy the tools of persuasion, or who have the charisma that makes them attractive to their community. Or both. Neither situation tends to end well. Is influence the same as leadership? I'm thinking here of Seth Godin's book "Tribes: We Need You To Lead Us"? Of the books you listed, is there one that gets under the surface (and gets away from the transactional '10 Tips' pop-psychology of most of this writing, which causes me to gag)? Anything with a healthy does of science, sociology, and psychology? I love theses lists you create BTW, and the way you structure them. Really thoughtful and useful.
Great list, thanks for the suggestions. What do you think about Messengers - 8 ways to get heard?
I don't see The Go-Giver by John David Mann and Bob Burg on this list? Maybe I am just biased. If we are talking the power of influence, this book is an amazing read.
Which books would you recommend for developing agile mindset?
Thank you for the book summaries on your website. Influencer: The New Science of Leading Change fits this set very well. It is more research than opinion. https://www.amazon.com/Influencer-Science-Leading-Change-Second/dp/0071808868
John Wiley & Sons, the publisher of the third edition of "The Art of Client Service," describes it as "the classic guide," Toby, and truth be told, stellar client service is all about the power of influence, not just with clients, but also with colleagues. If you would like to add it to the other classics on your list, I will be glad to mail you a copy, with compliments. Best, Robert
I am very pleased to see the latest thinking are all books by women. Must check them out.
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1yToby Sinclair, great chart, I would add to it three more books: Win Bigly by Scott Adams, it's funny, well written and a true wake up call to how masses are influenced and how each of us presives the same reality in a completely different way. The second book is another by Robert Cialdini; Pre-Suasion. It offers a unique perspective that we often don't consider in engineering decision making. Last but not least would be Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman. It's the 101 tutorial bible to how we think and make decisions. A critical book for understanding people. Cheers 🌻